Beyond Bonjour: How to Greet People in France Like a Local

French greetings are not just a formality; they are a fundamental part of social interaction and there are unspoken “rules” that many of us French language learners may not fully appreciate.

The most common greeting is “Bonjour,” which is used during the day to say, “Good morning” or “Good afternoon.” It is essential to say “Bonjour” when you enter a shop, join a queue, or meet someone new, as it reflects politeness and respect. In the evening, “Bonsoir” replaces “Bonjour” to wish someone a “Good evening.”

For a more casual touch, “Salut” is a versatile word used among friends and family to say both “Hello” and “Goodbye.”

If you’re very close to someone, you might use “Coucou,” which is a playful and endearing way to greet close friends and close family members, often accompanied by a warm smile. For example, when I call in unannounced at my close friends and neighbours, I use ‘Coucou.’

In more formal or professional settings, especially when speaking to a group, “Bonjour Messieurs/Mesdames” shows courtesy and acknowledges everyone who is present. This is particularly important in meetings, formal gatherings, or when addressing strangers collectively, such as when you join a long queue inside your local boulangerie.

Understanding when and how to use these greetings can help you to navigate French social settings with ease, and this should ensure a positive interaction every time!

In addition to greetings, mastering small talk is another sometimes tricky aspect of French culture because there are also associated “rules”. While it might seem daunting at first, engaging in light conversation can enrich your experiences and deepen everyday connections, so it is worth persevering.

Asking “How are you?” can be expressed in various ways depending on the level of formality. The most common and neutral form is “Comment ça va ?” (“How’s it going?”), suitable for both friends and acquaintances. This is a ‘safe’ phrase!

In more formal settings, such as when speaking to someone you don’t know well or in a professional context, “Comment allez-vous ?” (“How are you?”) is more appropriate.

Among close friends or family, a simple and informal “Ça va ?” will do, often followed by responses like “Ça va bien, et toi ?” (“I’m good, and you?”).

A common ‘small-talk’ topic the world over is the weather. You might hear or say, “Quel temps magnifique aujourd’hui, n’est-ce pas ?” (“What magnificent weather today, isn’t it?”) or “Ils annoncent de la pluie pour demain” (“The forecast is rain tomorrow”).

Commenting on surroundings is another safe bet. Phrases such as “C’est joli, ici !” (“It’s lovely here!”) or “Quelle ambiance!” (“What a pleasant atmosphere!”) can open up a friendly conversation. Engaging with shopkeepers is a good way to practice, too. For instance, asking “Avez-vous une recommandation  ?” (“Do you have a recommendation?”) demonstrates interest.

Polite, casual exchanges are deeply rooted in the French emphasis on courtesy and connection with others. Once you know the rules of formality, you will soon be greeting people like a local in France.

Bonne continuation!